By Amanda Usher
“Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.”
Col. 3:13-5 (NLT)
People will bring harm to you and will violate you in ways that may linger with you for a lifetime. You can’t afford them the opportunity to have any power over you. You have to free yourself from any chain of deceit and betrayal that they’ve brought into your life. Holding on to the misery that comes with being bounded by them is not worth the agony of living in pain and hurt. Let go.
Never forget what they’ve done but rather forgive them for doing it to you. Forgive them not only because you were commanded by God to do so, but do it because you need to drown yourself in peace. If you’re still stuck in the negative areas of your past, you can’t fully appreciate the positive ones in your present or in your future. People spend years and years allowing themselves to be angry and affected by the abandonment they felt from a parent, or allowing themselves to be held back from experiencing genuine love because of a past relationship. You have to take the steps to heal those wounds and move forward to value what you have today.
You could also be the cause of your strife through your actions. Every choice that you make will one day affect you in either a positive or negative way, so you very well may have harmed yourself due to poor decisions. Forgive yourself for whatever you have done to contribute to your unhappiness. It was a mistake that may have taught you something about yourself unbeknownst to you, so don’t spend your days depressed about it.
God has something amazing planned for your life. You have to move forward into the greatness of your future without any baggage. Don’t live a life full of hatred for not an ounce of peace will be found. It’s okay to be hurt and saddened, but it’s never okay to carry that burden for years and years helping it weigh you down. God wants to grant you serenity with the new life that He’s given you when you accepted Him. Bask in it and love and thank Him for it. While you don’t have to befriend the person that caused your tragedy, forgive them not to please them, but to please your Heavenly Father. Only then will you know true tranquility.
Who in your past, or present, must you forgive to have bliss in your life? Have you begun to start the process of letting go of them?
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